I am not one to publicly comment on reality shows. In fact, I rarely watch them. But I have been completely captivated by a TLC reality show – Jon and Kate plus 8. I have gotten caught up in the development of all the children, and have for a long time,and have not wanted to believe the tabloids.
What first caught my attention was the fact that Jon and Kate were quite open about their church involvement and the faith that they are teaching to their children. To have watched the kids at the Creation play, and hearing Alexis sing praise songs to herself – made me want to applaud this family as they raise their children in Godly ways.
Yet, tonight, as I write this – they have announced that they have filed court papers to dissolve their marriage, just less than one year after they made a huge production about renewing their vows, “to show our kids that we will always be together”. My heart is very heavy – these are not actors, the children are not living out a script – a family, a very public family – is falling apart.
I cannot begin to imagine, nor will I pass any judgement on the reasons for the dissolution of the marriage. I have not walked in their shoes, nor do I have the ability to see inside their lives.
What bothers me most the fact that those who seek to discount faith in the God of Scripture and the Christian Church, will be able to point another finger of blame, and reason to not trust in God.
It is my prayer for this family – as well as all families – that they will (they may have already) seek Christian counsel with their pastor. That they have bathed this decision in prayer, and that they will seek to show their children God’s love through all of this.
For all families – I know that life is hard, and can only imagine how difficult it is to be a couple and parents at the same time. Know this – God planned designed family, and no where in scripture do we see a flawless example of parenting. God uses our story to show the proof of His grace, and is redemption. The family is what He uses to show the world, unconditional love. Even when words and behaviours have hurt us deeply, we are able to move beyond it, only through showing the Grace that He first showed us.
It is also my prayer any church that has a family going through this kind of trial, will rally around them. Too often the Church is far to quick to back away from a dissolving family, instead of supporting all the members. That support means prayer, shoulders to cry on…whatever they need.
And that would be an Orange response to a breaking family. For the church to come along side the family, and be the light to all the members of the family. There will always be families in crisis among us – God calls us to love them just the same, if not more tenderly than anyone else among us. Will you extend them the Grace He has showed you?